Warum Frauen keine netten Männer mögen

About 10 years ago, one day in class a young man blurted out the following: “You know, women keep saying that what they are looking for is a nice guy. But then they turn around and date the jerks, only to complain in the next breath that there just aren’t any nice guys out there anymore and that all men are jerks.”

I thought for sure I was going to have a small riot on my hands from the women in the class. There wasn’t. In fact, well over half the women in the class agreed. [I have since been having a similar discussion in class every semester, and each time a majority of the woman end up agreeing that they typically choose to date jerks.]

Why?!

These are the sorts of comments that woman offer every semester:
- Nice guys are just too considerate
- There’s not enough of a challenge with nice guys
- Nice guys are too courteous and kind
- There’s not enough about nice guys that needs changing
- Nice guys care about you and want to be with you
- There’s not enough drama with nice guys
- Nice guys treat you too nicely

I always walk away from these discussions scratching my head. Am I really hearing this correctly? A lot of women don’t want to date a guy because he treats you too well? Because he’s too considerate? Because he cares about you?

And then we wonder why there is so much scar tissue on the heart …

Psychologieprofessor John Buri erklärt auf Psychology Today, was Sache ist.